Goal Setting Is More Than Just Positive Thinking ? Like ?The Secret? ?

Goal Setting Is More Than Just Positive Thinking (With Thoughts About The?Secret)

Posted by timemappingblog on June 22, 2011 ? Leave a Comment?

You can do ANYTHING! Anything you set your mind to can be done. As I tell my clients, so long as it abides by the laws of physics and/or doesn?t have a will that opposes you, it can be done or it can be yours. This is absolutely true. But you have to actually DO it! You can?t just think about it? and this leads me to my cautions about the very popular ?The Secret?.

We?ve all heard of the movie and book ?The Secret?. ?Let me just say that it?s a good concept, but I have to add that it never sat well with me as an independent strategy for success.

So. With all of the positive and negative things I?ve heard about The Secret, I?ve chosen to extract the positive. Here?s what I personally think about it, and what I tell my clients who bring it up to me.

The Secret has been pitched as an age-old secret known only by a select few. It?s the secret of attracting what you want just by thinking about it. ?The only thing you have to do is think? Well, that and buy the movie or book. Don?t get me wrong! The Secret has valid and points as to how it can work. And it CAN work, to some degree. But read on to learn how you can make some much needed?amendments to???The Secret? and?really??get results in your life.

The Secret is actually based on some pretty good science in that the ?law of attraction? is a very real thing. If you?ve seen The Secret and applied the?philosophy, you might have experienced success with it to some degree. If so, I guarantee you did more than just ?think? happy thoughts. It?s a fact that we really do move towards what we focus on, ?but beware?

WHAT ?THE SECRET? REALLY IS?

To me, The Secret is like a topical ointment of self-improvement or goal setting in that it is, as pitched, the easiest and most effortless way to get what you want. I think The Secret appeals to the non-go-getter in all of us. ?I see it as being custom made for people who want something for nothing. True, you do have to think positive thoughts, and for some this can be a challenge, but in the overall scheme of things, thinking is just the beginning. No matter how important thinking is? it?s just the beginning.

Getting results by just thinking is a great concept and when it happens (it does?occasionally?happen) it makes us feel lucky and happy for a while, but eventually we fritter away what we haven?t earned. So let?s just take the ?something for nothing? way of thinking right out of our grab bag of tools.

If you ever get a reward for just thinking positive thoughts, great. But let?s not make that our game plan, OK? We are more intelligent, resourceful and motivated than THAT!

WHAT WE SHOULD BE DOING WITH ?THE SECRET?

Here?s what you can do with The Secret. You can focus on what you want, just the way it suggest you should, but also consider doing these things:

1. INTERNAL ORGANIZATION ? Be sure that you believe you deserve this good thing you are attracting AND that all of the internal beliefs you have are aligned with you getting it. It does no good at all to focus on something that a part of you may not think you deserve or that you are not able to get. For instance, what if you have a deep subconscious belief that you never get what you really want in life? Won?t this work against your ?positive thinking?? After all, you may have believed since you were a child that you just never get what you want? and that is a LOT of time and experience with thinking that thought to fight with a brand new happy or positive thought you are introducing just now. You have to know how to find these deep beliefs (or belief systems) that may conflict with your new desires and then change them so they compliment your positive focus and actually HELP you get what you want.
2. EXTERNAL ORGANIZATION ? Be sure that you organize the variables involved so that they compliment this thing you want and don?t contrast it, or work against you getting it. For instance, if you are trying to attract photo shoots where you are a swim suit model, you will need health and fitness goals and strategies in place to compliment what you are trying to attract. This in addition to the internal organization you?ll be doing like being sure you have a healthy self-image and are confident with your body. Remember, if something doesn?t help you get what you want, well, than it DOESN?T HELP YOU GET WHAT YOU WANT. I know that seems obvious, but so often I speak with people who have blind spots and simply will not acknowledge certain things that are working against them. I know a woman who is so adoring of a friend that she can not see the damage her friend is causing?inadvertently?with certain things she says and does. By not confronting this issue, the woman I work with is allowing an interference to remain in her path. Allowing this interference to go unchallenged or un-addressed is not helping her achieve her goals and is in fact, working against them.

There is much more to achieving success with your goals, but I think this might just sum up some of the bigger aspects that should be considered when you are contemplating The Secret and it?s seemingly effortless approach to happiness and fulfillment. You want to extract from The Secret that which is good, and then add in intelligently all of the things it neglects to provide. As with many tools for happiness and success, The Secret is best used when applied to a well rounded diet of self improvement.

Don?t put all of your eggs in any one ?self-improvement basket? . Instead, read around. Shop at more stores (metaphorically). Apply a few different systems so that if one falters, you have others. A system like Unbound & Limitless is good because it is built on the proven elements of 4 different monumentally successful systems of success and life change! I encourage you to learn more about it, but if you don?t you should at the very least continue to look around for systems that click with you, and when you have 3 or 4 you like, combine them in your own way so that you have a well rounded plan!

If this sounds difficult, I?m happy to help, after all it?s what I do. But I think you should expect for your pursuit of a fulfilling life to be a little bit of work. You are, after all, trying to build the best life possible for yourself and if you expect it to be as easy as The Secret can make it sound, you might have some success, but it will probably not be all that you are capable of.

For more on Self Improvement Systems? or on Life Coaching, Goal Setting or success and?fulfillment?in general, be sure to sign up for my ?Emails! And Look into my coaching programs and the release of the?Unbound & Limitless?and?Time Mapping?programs, coming to you August 29th, 2011.

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